You Think You Know

三月 18, 2016 at 4:12 上午

You Think You Know

 

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Two staff were arranged by their boss of a shoe factory to visit India. After they returned, one of them was complacent and reported that “this is a market full of opportunities and we can open new factories there, because I noticed that most of the local people didn’t wear shoes, as long as one person purchase one pair of our shoes, we earn big money.” But the other reported that “we should not open any factories there, because no one wear shoes, and it will be hard for us to sell shoes there.”

A couple or lovers were separated in different cities, the girl wanted to break up with her boyfriend and wrote to him “we are too far apart, love is fading, and we don’t even know each other’s ideas and needs.” He wrote back to her “though we haven’t being together all the time, we always miss each other, and this will increase our love.”

I found that in many marital counselling cases clients used “the present point of view” to presume future outcome, just like after seeing few people wearing shoes in India, we conclude not to sell shoes there; just like seeing lovers being apart, we think that their relation is doom to end.

There are many similar cases in life, such as we think the sex life of old husband and young wife is not good, poor people have no future, etc. If we think we are smart enough to make correct judgments, then we may already be in the trap of “present point of view”!

For a beginner of face reading, I remind them to abandon their subjective persistence, and not to predict someone’s future by the “present point of view”, the appearance of his/her eyes, ears and noses.

When you think you know, you ask yourself objectively “do I really know?” If you are using “present point of view” to predict the result, then you may need to review your way of life.